{"id":3883,"date":"2016-11-10T18:32:56","date_gmt":"2016-11-10T18:32:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/?p=3883"},"modified":"2016-11-22T18:51:27","modified_gmt":"2016-11-22T18:51:27","slug":"de-ce-sa-citesti-all-about-love-de-bell-hooks","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/gazetapolitica\/2016\/11\/10\/de-ce-sa-citesti-all-about-love-de-bell-hooks\/","title":{"rendered":"De ce s\u0103 cite\u0219ti All about love, de bell hooks"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><em><strong>de Carolina Vozian<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">Scriitoare, profesoar\u0103, <\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"en-US\">activist\u0103 feminist\u0103 afro-american<\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">\u0103, care vorbe\u0219te asumat dintr-un punct al intersec\u021biei dintre identit\u0103\u021bi, bell hooks este una dintre cele mai importante voci academice ale secolului XX. \u00cen c\u0103r\u021bile sale ea analizeaz\u0103 \u0219i deconstruie\u0219te func\u021bia etniei \u0219i a genului \u00een cultura contemporan\u0103. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">S-a n\u0103scut \u00een 1952, \u00een SUA, \u00een Hopkinsville, Kentucky, un ora\u0219 mic \u0219i segregat rasial. Comunitatea \u00een care a crescut i-a conturat identitatea, a fost locul unde a \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat ce e solidaritatea \u0219i cum s\u0103 transforme experien\u021ba rasismului tr\u0103it zi de zi \u00een putere \u0219i rezisten\u021b\u0103. Venind dintr-o familie de muncitori, \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u00e2nd o vreme \u00eentr-o \u0219coal\u0103 segregat\u0103, pe la 10 ani a \u00eenceput s\u0103 scrie poezii, s\u0103 le citeasc\u0103 \u00een public \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eenceap\u0103 a-\u0219i contura rezisten\u021ba la opresiune prin scris. \u00cen \u0219coal\u0103 a avut ca mentore un grup de profesoare dedicate s\u0103 ajute copiii afro-americani s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i creasc\u0103 stima de sine, \u00een pofida faptului c\u0103 se confruntau constant cu rasismul. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3885\" src=\"https:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/gazetapolitica\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/11\/bell-hooks.jpg\" alt=\"bell-hooks\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/gazetapolitica\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/11\/bell-hooks.jpg 300w, https:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/gazetapolitica\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/11\/bell-hooks-150x150.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>Ca femeie, \u00een loc s\u0103 devin\u0103 silen\u021bioas\u0103 \u0219i politicoas\u0103, bell hooks a vorbit. \u00cencrez\u0103toare, puternic\u0103, vulnerabil\u0103: legitim\u0103. La 19 ani a \u00eenceput s\u0103 scrie prima carte, <\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\"><i>Ain<\/i><\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"en-US\"><i>\u2019t I a woman<\/i><\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"en-US\">, pe care a publicat-o peste 6 ani <\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">\u0219i care a devenit o carte central\u0103 \u00een discursul feminist antirasist. Dup\u0103 ce \u0219i-a dat doctoratul \u00een literatur\u0103 englez\u0103, a devenit profesoar\u0103 universitar\u0103, fiind convins\u0103 c\u0103 acest rol era cel mai important dintre c\u00e2te ar fi putut s\u0103 aleag\u0103. F\u0103c\u00e2nd parte dintr-un grup c\u0103ruia istoric \u0219i legal i s-a oprit accesul la educa\u021bie, bell hooks a considerat c\u0103 a preda este o form\u0103 politic\u0103 de rezisten\u021b\u0103. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">A predat la diverse universit\u0103\u021bi \u0219i \u00een 2014 a fondat Institutul bell hooks, la Bearea College, \u00een Berea, Kentucky. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">bell hooks este una dintre primele teoreticiene care a introdus etnia \u0219i clasa \u00een teoria feminist\u0103.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\">*<\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">De ceva vreme vorbesc despre <\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\"><i>All about love<\/i><\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\"> scris\u0103 de bell hooks, trimit citate \u00een conversa\u021bii cu prietenele \u0219i prietenii c\u00e2nd mi se pare c\u0103 e potrivit, fac pledoarii s\u0103 o citeasc\u0103 toat\u0103 lumea. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">\u00cen <\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\"><i>All about love<\/i><\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\"> po\u021bi s\u0103 dai de unele pasaje care, scoase din context, te pot face sceptic\u0103 sau reticent\u0103 \u2013 de exemplu unele fragmente din biblie sau unele ridic\u0103ri \u00een sl\u0103vi ale iubirii. Dar ar fi p\u0103cat s\u0103 nu o cite\u0219ti. Pentru c\u0103 \u00een ea bell hooks deconstruie\u0219te \u0219i demistific\u0103 iubirea capitol cu capitol. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\"><b>Defini\u021bii<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">bell hooks afirm\u0103 c\u0103 iubirea adev\u0103rat\u0103 este anticapitalist\u0103 \u0219i antipatriarhal\u0103 \u0219i ar trebui s\u0103 stea la baza comunit\u0103\u021bilor \u0219i a luptelor pentru justi\u021bie social\u0103. Ea define\u0219te iubirea adev\u0103rat\u0103, deloc mistic, ca pe o combina\u021bie de grij\u0103, devotament, \u00eencredere, cuno\u0219tin\u021be, afec\u021biune, comunicare, responsabilitate \u0219i respect. Mul\u021bi credem c\u0103 iubirea e ceea ce sim\u021bi, nu ce practici. Avem diverse defini\u021bii prinse din aer: atrac\u021bie sexual\u0103 combinat\u0103 cu afec\u021biune; grij\u0103 \u0219i afec\u021biune care scuz\u0103 abuzul; conexiune romantic\u0103 \u00een exclusivitate \u0219amd. bell hooks scrie c\u0103 e nevoie s\u0103 deconstruim tot ce am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat \u0219i tot ce credem c\u0103 ar fi iubirea \u00een lumea contemporan\u0103, acest sentiment misterios care ne posed\u0103 \u00een diferite momente din via\u021b\u0103 \u0219i ne umple de fericire, pentru ca apoi ne trezim din nou aruncate \u00een m\u00e2zga realit\u0103\u021bii. Ea insist\u0103 pe faptul c\u0103 iubirea e un verb; nu e ceva ce sim\u021bi, e ceva ce faci. E o practic\u0103 zilnic\u0103 \u0219i o etic\u0103. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">De asemenea, iubirea nu poate s\u0103 coexiste cu abuzul \u0219i cu puterea. Oriunde e folosit\u0103 puterea pentru a justifica iubirea, sau invers, este vorba despre cu totul altceva. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\"><b>Iubirea \u00een capitalism<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">bell hooks analizeaz\u0103 conexiunea dintre iubire \u0219i capitalism \u0219i modul \u00een care capitalismul a pervertit \u0219i apropriat no\u021biunea de iubire, a\u0219a cum a f\u0103cut cu multe alte lucruri. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">De\u0219i aparent \u00een capitalism vedem dragoste peste tot &#8211; inimioare roz,<\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"en-US\"> filme romantice \u0219i <\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">basme pe care le internaliz\u0103m din copil\u0103rie &#8211; tr\u0103im de fapt \u00eentr-o lume profund lipsit\u0103 de iubire. Pare un paradox, dar nu este. Ce identific\u0103 bell hooks ca iubire nu este ceva magic sau mistic sau de neatins. Nu este po\u021biunea care \u00ee\u021bi t\u0103m\u0103duie\u0219te toate r\u0103nile, dac\u0103 o g\u0103se\u0219ti. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">\u00cen prezent, \u201dg\u0103sirea\u201d iubirii e o tem\u0103 vehiculat\u0103 constant. Peste tot \u00een filme, c\u0103r\u021bi, muzic\u0103 exist\u0103 dorin\u021ba de iubire \u0219i suferin\u021ba din cauza ne-g\u0103sirii acesteia. Aproape nic\u0103ieri iubirea nu e prezentat\u0103 ca o etic\u0103 \u0219i ca un mod de via\u021b\u0103 asumat, la care lucrezi constant, ca o practic\u0103 zilnic\u0103 \u00een rela\u021bia cu tine \u0219i rela\u021bia cu lumea. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">Iubirea \u00een capitalism este v\u0103zut\u0103 gre\u0219it. Tr\u0103im \u00eentr-o lume injust\u0103, cu inegalit\u0103\u021bi grave \u0219i cu extrem de mult\u0103 suferin\u021b\u0103 de pe urma acestora, iar consumerismul ne ofer\u0103 pl\u0103ceri imediate. Suntem \u00eentr-o constant\u0103 c\u0103utare de droguri. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">De multe ori, \u201diubire\u201d se nume\u0219te doar perioada de \u00eenceput a unei rela\u021bii romantice, c\u00e2nd oamenii \u00eenc\u0103 nu se cunosc. E vorba despre perioada hormonal\u0103 de \u00eendr\u0103gostire, aceasta fiind drogul pe care \u00eel caut\u0103 oamenii ca pe o eliberare de via\u021ba real\u0103, iar c\u00e2nd hormonii nu mai sunt la c\u00e2rm\u0103, \u00eencep s\u0103 caute o \u201diubire\u201d nou\u0103. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">Tot ce ne ofer\u0103 satisfac\u021bie imediat\u0103 ne orbe\u0219te la injusti\u021biile grave \u0219i cruzimea lumii \u00een care tr\u0103im, ne face s\u0103 uit\u0103m de noi, s\u0103 nu deconstruim opresiunea internalizat\u0103, s\u0103 nu tindem spre a schimba nimic \u00een noi \u0219i \u00een jurul nostru. Trecem de la un escapism la altul, tr\u0103im \u00eentr-o incon\u0219tien\u021b\u0103 de sine general\u0103 \u0219i asta e tot ce vrea capitalismul de la noi \u0219i ceea ce \u00eel face s\u0103 prospere. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\"><b>Iubirea \u00een patriarhat <\/b><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">\u00cen patriarhat, ca \u00een orice alt sistem de putere, se presupune c\u0103 exist\u0103 o parte superioar\u0103 \u0219i una inferioar\u0103. Cineva puternic \u0219i cineva slab. bell hooks afirm\u0103 c\u0103 o etic\u0103 asumat\u0103 a iubirii nu ar mai permite dominarea, \u00een orice situa\u021bie social\u0103. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">De<\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ru-RU\">\u0219i femeile sunt cele \u00eenv\u0103\u021bate de mici s\u0103 practice iubirea, iar b\u0103rba\u021bii \u2013 s\u0103 <\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">o primeasc\u0103, cei din urm\u0103 au multe de zis la subiect. Cea mai mare parte din literatura despre dragoste renumit\u0103 este scrise de b\u0103rba\u021bi. Un text despre iubire venit de la o femeie scriitoare trebuie s\u0103 se dep\u0103\u0219easc\u0103 pe sine ca s\u0103 nu fie considerat penibil, hiperemo\u021bional, neimportant, \u0219i \u00eentr-un final s\u0103 fie oricum \u00eencadrat \u00een sertarul cu \u201dliteratur\u0103 feminin\u0103\u201d. Cert e c\u0103 romanele de dragoste scrise de b\u0103rba\u021bi au cele mai multe cititoare femei. Aici intervine sexismul internalizat, femeile care cred c\u0103 deja \u0219tiu tot ce ar putea s\u0103 spun\u0103 o alt\u0103 femeie \u0219i nu au ce s\u0103 \u00eenve\u021be de la ea, \u00eens\u0103 sunt extrem de curioase ce are un b\u0103rbat de zis despre iubire. B\u0103rba\u021bii care scriu despre iubire, scriu despre experien\u021ba lor \u00een care au primit \u0219i primesc, ceea ce e o pozi\u021bie privilegiat\u0103. Femeile scriu despre lipsa \u0219i dorin\u021ba de iubire, o pozi\u021bie privit\u0103 cu suspiciune. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">De asemenea, cunoa\u0219tem cu to\u021bii c\u0103 o mare parte din munca emo\u021bional\u0103 \u00een majoritatea rela\u021biilor romantice heterosexuale tradi\u021bionale este f\u0103cut\u0103 de femei. Femeile creeaz\u0103 discu\u021bii, \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 rezolve conflicte, renun\u021b\u0103 la unele dintre nevoile lor, se pliaz\u0103 dup\u0103 nevoile partenerilor, \u00ee\u0219i schimb\u0103 comportamente de dragul rela\u021biilor \u0219amd. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">B\u0103rba\u021bii, de multe ori \u0219i unii femini\u0219ti, oscileaz\u0103 \u00eentre b\u0103rbat macho \u00eentr-o pozi\u021bie de putere \u0219i b\u0103ie\u021bel care refuz\u0103 s\u0103 creasc\u0103. Iubirea este ceva ce ei primesc, de cele mai multe ori, nu ce ofer\u0103. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">bell hooks scrie despre foarte mul\u021bi b\u0103rba\u021bi declarat femini\u0219ti, care \u00een rela\u021bii r\u0103m\u00e2neau ni\u0219te b\u0103ie\u021bei ce refuzau s\u0103 creasc\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 fac\u0103 orice munc\u0103 emo\u021bional\u0103, pentru c\u0103 nu doreau s\u0103 devin\u0103 ni\u0219te b\u0103rba\u021bi macho, a\u0219a c\u0103 nu mai cre\u0219teau deloc. Ca s\u0103 evolueze, s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i contureze o alt\u0103 identitate dec\u00e2t aia prescris\u0103 de societate, ar fi trecut prin mult\u0103 suferin\u021b\u0103. Acceptarea suferin\u021bei este inerent\u0103 practicii iubirii \u0219i a deconstruirii masculinit\u0103\u021bii toxice. Refuzul durerii care \u00eenso\u021be\u0219te \u00eenv\u0103\u021barea iubirii este refuzul de a cre\u0219te \u0219i de a te bucura de cre\u0219terea persoanelor al\u0103turi de tine. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Iubirea \u00een comunitate<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">Cel mai important mi s-a p\u0103rut faptul c\u0103 iubirea este baza unei comunit\u0103\u021bi. bell hooks afirm\u0103 c\u0103 acestea sus\u021bin via\u021ba, nu familia nuclear\u0103, nu cuplul, \u0219i cu siguran\u021b\u0103 nu individul. Capitalismul \u0219i patriarhatul au distrus \u00een mare parte conceptul de comunitate,ca s\u0103 alieneze oamenii unii \u00eempotriva altora, fiecare \u00een celula sa, \u00een care s\u0103 acumuleze bunuri \u0219i s\u0103 fie normalizat\u0103 exploatarea. A fost \u00eenlocuit\u0103 pasiunea de a ne conecta cu pasiunea de a poseda. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">De asemenea, familia nuclear\u0103 exist\u0103 ca s\u0103 p\u0103streze puterea \u00een m\u00e2na unui b\u0103rbat(\u00eentr-un cuplu) \u0219i \u00een m\u00e2inile a doar doi oameni asupra copiilor. \u00cen a\u0219a fel, ne obi\u0219nuim de mici cu disciplinarea \u0219i reducerea la t\u0103cere, cu obedien\u021ba, \u0219i ne transfer\u0103m \u00een via\u021ba adult\u0103 cu aceste cuno\u0219tin\u021be despre lume, \u00een care ori sutem exploata\u021bi, ori \u00een pozi\u021bii de putere, ori aspir\u0103m la putere din ni\u0219te locuri \u00een care nu o avem. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">Individualismul \u0219i izolarea sunt opuse rezisten\u021bei. S\u0103 reziste unui sistem injust poate doar o comunitate. O comunitate care practic\u0103 arta iubirii este tot ce este opus ierarhiei, abuzului, puterii, autorit\u0103\u021bii. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\"><b>Iubire de sine<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">Multe \u0219i mul\u021bi dintre noi venim din familii \u00een care am fost crescute \u0219i crescu\u021bi \u00een abuz fizic sau psihic. Acolo am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat s\u0103 credem c\u0103 iubirea poate s\u0103 fie alternat\u0103 cu puterea \u0219i s\u0103 coexiste. E un mare fals. Abuzul neag\u0103 iubirea. Abandonul neag\u0103 iubirea. Neglijarea, disciplinarea, manipularea emo\u021bional\u0103, inducerea fricii neag\u0103 iubirea. Pe c\u00e2t de important este s\u0103 realiz\u0103m c\u0103 familiile noastre nu poart\u0103 vina individual pentru ce ni s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, ci sunt \u0219i ele un produsul unui sistem profund eronat, pe at\u00e2t de important e nevoie s\u0103 ne recunoa\u0219tem r\u0103nile \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eencepem procesul de vindecare. E modul \u00een care putem s\u0103 cre\u0219tem. bell hooks vorbe\u0219te nu despre iubirea de sine ca acel proces narcisic \u0219i individualist, care serve\u0219te consumerismul \u0219i ne \u00eendeamn\u0103 s\u0103 mergem la spa \u0219i la mall ca s\u0103 \u201dne respect\u0103m pe noi\u201d. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">Ea scrie despre iubirea de sine care nu poate s\u0103 existe \u00een individualism \u0219i izolare. Despre drumul nostru spre a ne respecta pe noi \u00een\u0219ine, a avea grij\u0103 \u0219i a ne oferi nou\u0103 afec\u021biune, replic\u00e2nd acest proces \u0219i asupra oamenilor din jur. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">Este esen\u021bial s\u0103 ne construim stima de sine, care e o practic\u0103 de a tr\u0103i con\u0219tient, \u00een acceptare de sine, cu resposabilitate asumat\u0103 \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu noi \u0219i cu cei din jur. Este o practic\u0103 a integrit\u0103\u021bii personale. S\u0103 ne respect\u0103m pe noi \u00eensene \u0219i \u00een\u0219ine, la bell hooks, \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 putem privi critic lumea \u00een care tr\u0103im, s\u0103 o chestion\u0103m, s\u0103 ne autochestion\u0103m, s\u0103 tr\u0103im con\u0219tient. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">Acceptarea de sine e un proces foarte lung \u0219i anevoios, \u00een cele mai multe dintre noi exist\u0103 o voce care ne spune constant c\u00e2t de lipsite de valoare suntem, ne umple de ru\u0219ine, fric\u0103, de sim\u021bul ridicolului \u0219i ne blocheaz\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 mai putem s\u0103 cre\u0219tem. De aceea, zice bell hooks, c\u0103 e important s\u0103 ne \u00eentoarcem la r\u0103nile noastre \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eencepem con\u0219tient s\u0103 ne punem bazele stimei de sine. Odat\u0103 ce ne respect\u0103m pe noi \u00een\u0219ine, putem s\u0103 \u00eei vedem pe oamenii din jur ca pe ni\u0219te egali. Odat\u0103 ce \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m solitudinea, nu mai fugim \u00een oameni ca s\u0103 ne umplem golurile interioare, ci intr\u0103m \u00een rela\u021bii pentru c\u0103 \u00eei apreciem ca persoane \u00een complexitatea lor, nu ca pe ni\u0219te spa\u021bii de refugiu. Iubirea de sine este fundamentul iubirii pentru celelalte\/ceilal\u021bi. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">C<\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">ritica mea la<\/span><\/span><\/span> <span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\"><i>All about love <\/i><\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">vizeaz\u0103<\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\"> perspectiv<\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">a<\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\"> heteronormativ\u0103 din care e scris\u0103, faptul c\u0103 se vorbe\u0219te despre rela\u021bii romantice doar \u00een termeni de b\u0103rba\u021bi-femei \u0219i tiparele \u00een care exist\u0103 acestea \u0219i ace\u0219tia. Se vorbe\u0219te \u0219i despre c\u0103s\u0103torie, pe alocuri \u00eentr-un fel care nu o chestioneaz\u0103 ca pe o institu\u021bie istoric patriarhal\u0103. Mariajul heterosexual e prezentat ca o uniune prolific\u0103 iubirii adev\u0103rate, fapt ce o fi posibil \u00een 1 la sut\u0103 din cazuri, dar sunt complet ignorate implica\u021biile misogine, homofobe \u0219i de control institu\u021bional a leg\u0103turilor dintre oameni, care vin la pachet cu mariajul. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\" align=\"justify\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">Perspectiva pe alocuri tradi\u021bional\u0103, \u00eens\u0103, nu ar trebui s\u0103 ne opreasc\u0103 din citit <\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\"><i>All about love<\/i><\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">, despre care cred c\u0103 poate fi o lec\u021bie despre iubire pentru noi toate\/to\u021bi. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p lang=\"de-DE\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span lang=\"ro-RO\">\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>de Carolina Vozian Scriitoare, profesoar\u0103, activist\u0103 feminist\u0103 afro-american\u0103, care vorbe\u0219te asumat dintr-un punct al intersec\u021biei dintre identit\u0103\u021bi, bell hooks este una dintre cele mai importante voci academice ale secolului XX. \u00cen c\u0103r\u021bile sale ea analizeaz\u0103 \u0219i deconstruie\u0219te func\u021bia etniei \u0219i a genului \u00een cultura contemporan\u0103. S-a n\u0103scut \u00een 1952, \u00een SUA, \u00een Hopkinsville, Kentucky, un ora\u0219 mic \u0219i segregat rasial. Comunitatea \u00een care a crescut i-a conturat identitatea, a fost locul unde a \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat ce e solidaritatea \u0219i cum s\u0103 transforme experien\u021ba rasismului tr\u0103it zi de zi \u00een putere \u0219i rezisten\u021b\u0103. Venind dintr-o familie de muncitori, \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u00e2nd o vreme \u00eentr-o&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[93],"tags":[108,261,262],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/gazetapolitica\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3883"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/gazetapolitica\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/gazetapolitica\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/gazetapolitica\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/gazetapolitica\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3883"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/gazetapolitica\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3883\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3892,"href":"https:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/gazetapolitica\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3883\/revisions\/3892"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/gazetapolitica\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3883"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/gazetapolitica\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3883"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/artapolitica.ro\/gazetapolitica\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3883"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}